So Hard To Say, I'm Sorry

Sorry seems to be the hardest word . . . Elton John
My year-old granddaughter became fair-game to her almost three-year-old brother this month, by taking her first running-steps into his world, and threatening his autonomy.

Until this time, Richard seemed to regard Regan, as a fairly benign rival for his parents' and grandparents' attention.  She was always there, but seemed to be happy sitting on the side-lines watching, as he exercised his authority over the toy-box, and table-tops.  Apparently, he now realizes that he has to share not only his belongings, but center-stage as well, and he doesn't like it.

Richard has chosen to deal with this intrusion, in the fashion that any red-blooded American boy would, by walking over, not around his doe-eyed little sister.  Each and every time he plows Regan over, his parents respond by pointing out the infraction, leveling some form of punishment, and insisting upon an apology for the brutish behavior.

While watching Richard humble himself, fumbling to formulate words of remorse to his sister, it occurred to me, that expressing an apology doesn't seem to get any easier, as one progresses in age.  For some reason, the words, "I'm sorry," seem to stick to the roof of practically everyone's mouth, like naturally processed, organic peanut butter, that refuses to either be swallowed or expelled, without some prodding.

We may feel regret for hurting someone's feelings, or recognize that we've behaved badly or inappropriately, but when it comes to expressing remorse, and making amends, many either stiffly refuse to apologize, or offer an excuse for the bad behavior.  Like peanut butter that's just too darn dry, many of us are just too arrogant to swallow our pride, and openly admit that we've done something wrong!

A sincerely expressed apology, never diminishes one's stature.  It's the guilt and remorse that we feel for not owning up to our own transgressions, that ultimately make us small.  Considering how hard it is to choke-out a few short words of apology, I'd say that making one, ought to be considered both cathartic and courageous.

With his parents' consistent and persistent intervention, I think Richard will quickly decide that being a bully isn't worth the trouble it causes.  As for making apologies, I can only hope that as he matures, he understands that it's as important to express them, as it is to hear them.


  1. that last pic is just too cute for words. I hope it's enlarged and in a prominent frame somewhere! I also have envisioned pics of Regan eating her first bday cake in wallet size spanning the width of 2 pages in a scrapbook! I can't seem to get designing pgs out of my system at the moment!

    as for your wise words, I say AMEN! sorry is so hard to say, but soooo necessary. As we get older, saying "I'm Sorry" feels like a little battle won against our will, both humbling and giving perspective to what is really important in life.

  2. Amen - Amen! Its not socially acceptable to be humble anymore :(

  3. Can you imagine what our world would be like if people said "I'm sorry" more often and actually meant it!

    Love the picture of Richard crying. Too cute.